This is the trap human beings fall into.
We want life to be binary.
We want to define who we are by what we do so our elevator pitch to God can be easily understood and accepted. But we are much more than what we do. I've spent a decade of my life being a ballplayer. Wishing and hoping and praying that I was nothing more than a ballplayer. But it turned out that the blinders that helped shape me became a vehicle for focus, perseverance, for showing up each day chasing something. And those traits remained even if baseball didn't.
So, I'm all three. I'm actually much more than all three, and I bet you are, too.
Not at all. I split my day into buckets.
The first bucket is writing and learning. I've spent years honing the craft of storytelling (still a work in progress) specifically focusing on sports memoirs and building my Romance debut. I show up every morning attempting to bridge the gap between what I want to create and what ends up on paper. This is the workout that builds endurance.
Then, I work hard at growing durable companies, some my own, some I'm contracted, for ten-to-twelve-hour a day. (My LinkedIn is dedicated solely to this part of my life).
It's simple. I work hard from the early morning to the late afternoon. Then I don't.
Wow. Okay.
One, Fabio hasn't been on a cover since the early 90s.
Two, I'm a huge advocate for men reading romance.
Three, to be a Romance the main character must allow themselves to be vulnerable. They have to overcome loss and regret and be willing to sacrifice everything they have to earn the life they desire.
And I wonder how amazing this world could be if we celebrated these characteristics of romance rather than scoff at them.